Proverbs 5, God Designed Intimacy

God designed intimacy in all its forms. Emotional, Physical, Spiritual and Intellectual

Intimacy
the state of being intimate.
a close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group.

These relationships are with each other and God. Love God and People
[Mat 22:36 ESV] "Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?"
[Mat 22:37 ESV] And he said to him, "You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.
[Mat 22:38 ESV] This is the great and first commandment.
[Mat 22:39 ESV] And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.
[Mat 22:40 ESV] On these two commandments depend all the Law and the Prophets."

This is the point of the whole Bible.
Remember the #1 Commandment.
[Deu 6:5 ESV] You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.

With God:
Emotional Intimacy; Worship, prayer, Bible study, Obedience

Physical Intimacy; not erotic, but as a living sacrifice. Wear our-selves out obeying.
[Phl 2:17 ESV] Even if I am to be poured out as a drink offering upon the sacrificial offering of your faith, I am glad and rejoice with you all.
[Phl 2:18 ESV] Likewise you also should be glad and rejoice with me.

[Ecc 5:12 ESV] Sweet is the sleep of a laborer, whether he eats little or much, but the full stomach of the rich will not let him sleep.

Spiritual Intimacy; obedience, the indwelling of the Holy Spirit.
[Jhn 16:7 ESV] Nevertheless, I tell you the truth: it is to your advantage that I go away, for if I do not go away, the Helper will not come to you. But if I go, I will send him to you.
[Jhn 16:8 ESV] And when he comes, he will convict the world concerning sin and righteousness and judgment:
[Jhn 16:9 ESV] concerning sin, because they do not believe in me;
[Jhn 16:10 ESV] concerning righteousness, because I go to the Father, and you will see me no longer;
[Jhn 16:11 ESV] concerning judgment, because the ruler of this world is judged.

[2Cr 1:21 ESV] And it is God who establishes us with you in Christ, and has anointed us,
[2Cr 1:22 ESV] and who has also put his seal on us and given us his Spirit in our hearts as a guarantee.

Intellectual: Bible Study and Obedience, Science There is no such thing as blind faith.

Isaiah when exhorting Israel to repent of evil, says the following.
[Isa 1:3 ESV] The ox knows its owner, and the donkey its master's crib, but Israel does not know, my people do not understand."
[Isa 1:4 ESV] Ah, sinful nation, a people laden with iniquity, offspring of evildoers, children who deal corruptly! They have forsaken the LORD, they have despised the Holy One of Israel, they are utterly estranged.
[Isa 1:16 ESV] Wash yourselves; make yourselves clean; remove the evil of your deeds from before my eyes; cease to do evil,
[Isa 1:17 ESV] learn to do good; seek justice, correct oppression; bring justice to the fatherless, plead the widow's cause.
[Isa 1:18 ESV] "Come now, let us reason together, says the LORD: though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red like crimson, they shall become like wool.

With People. Intimacy has moral laws to guide the depth of intimacy.
Emotional Intimacy;
[Rom 12:15 ESV] Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.

Physical Intimacy; two levels, not erotic and erotic.
Non-erotic:
Paul teaches Timothy: [1Ti 5:2 ESV] older women as mothers, younger women as sisters, in all purity.
We will discuss the erotic with Proverbs 5.

Spiritual Intimacy; Fellowship, prayer

Intellectual: Talking. Working through issues.

These four intimacies are Interdependent. They are connected.
When you go deeper with one, it effects all the others.
As humans, this is what real love looks like.


An exhortation to listen
[Pro 5:1 ESV] My son, be attentive to my wisdom; incline your ear to my understanding,
[Pro 5:2 ESV] that you may keep discretion, and your lips may guard knowledge.

Avoid the easy woman.
[Pro 5:3 ESV] For the lips of a forbidden woman drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil,
[Pro 5:4 ESV] but in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword.
[Pro 5:5 ESV] Her feet go down to death; her steps follow the path to Sheol;
[Pro 5:6 ESV] she does not ponder the path of life; her ways wander, and she does not know it.

Exhortation to listen
[Pro 5:7 ESV] And now, O sons, listen to me, and do not depart from the words of my mouth.
[Pro 5:8 ESV] Keep your way far from her, and do not go near the door of her house,

Consequence of adultery (premarital physical intimacy is adultery)
[Pro 5:9 ESV] lest you give your honor to others and your years to the merciless,
[Pro 5:10 ESV] lest strangers take their fill of your strength, and your labors go to the house of a foreigner,
Sinners eat their own.
Gossip, Slander, Hypocrisy (although they do it to, you will be used as their smoke screen)

How many pastors and priests have fallen to sexual immorality?
**Youth ministry leadership training.

Un-repented guilt leads to hatred of God & His rules.
[Pro 5:11 ESV] and at the end of your life you groan, when your flesh and body are consumed,
[Pro 5:12 ESV] and you say, "How I hated discipline, and my heart despised reproof!
[Pro 5:13 ESV] I did not listen to the voice of my teachers or incline my ear to my instructors.
[Pro 5:14 ESV] I am at the brink of utter ruin in the assembled congregation."
** These are the perpetual victim people. It’s never their own fault.

Stay faithful to your spouse
[Pro 5:15 ESV] Drink water from your own cistern, flowing water from your own well.
[Pro 5:16 ESV] Should your springs be scattered abroad, streams of water in the streets?
[Pro 5:17 ESV] Let them be for yourself alone, and not for strangers with you.
[Pro 5:18 ESV] Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth,
[Pro 5:19 ESV] a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.

God designed physical intimacy. It is for His Glory. Song of Solomon is a celebration of physical intimacy and passion. It is not an allegory of Christ.

[Pro 5:20 ESV] Why should you be intoxicated, my son, with a forbidden woman and embrace the bosom of an adulteress?

God knows what you are thinking
[Pro 5:21 ESV] For a man's ways are before the eyes of the LORD, and he ponders all his paths.
[Pro 5:22 ESV] The iniquities of the wicked ensnare him, and he is held fast in the cords of his sin.
[Pro 5:23 ESV] He dies for lack of discipline, and because of his great folly he is led astray.
Whoopi
[Mat 5:28 ESV] But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Everybody is guilty,
Sin is the great equalizer. It puts everyone on a level playing field.

[Job 31:1 NIV] "I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman.

God says, Rules for erotic physical intimacy are the following:
marriage covenant required. one adult man, one adult woman
The world says, no covenant required, gender doesn’t matter, number doesn’t matter, age does not matter. And coming soon, humans do not matter.

David prays an incredible prayer of intimacy to God.
[Psa 139:23 NIV] Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts.
[Psa 139:24 NIV] See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.

Wisdom Proverbs 5; God Created Intimacy

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